A Shift in Focus for 2023
After focusing on joint co-parenting coaching/counseling and parent facilitation work for 10 years now, I am shifting the focus of my practice to work with parents who are ready to focus on their own individual work.
Divorce, a difficult co-parenting relationship, and/or challenges with re-partnering are openings to the deeper work of looking inside and finding out more about your relationship patterns and challenges and where they originate, which is almost always in early childhood attachment relationships. Why? Because as human beings, these original relationships are the template by which we experience all other intimate relationships. These original relationship patterns and challenges are often “epigenetic” or “multigenerational” – meaning that the patterns did not start with you. They are patterns and relational traumas that repeat across generations in families, passed down from parent to child, until someone becomes aware of the pattern and decides to understand where it comes from and to change it.
Doing your own inner relationship work is the pathway to transform your relationships to self, intimate partners and your children. And doing this work is the greatest gift you can give your children—because you interrupt the intergenerational pattern from being transmitted to them. As parents, we cannot alleviate all suffering from our children’s lives, but doing our part, our own individual work, makes space for our children to grow and develop along their unique paths, without being burdened by generations of dysfunctional, traumatic, limiting family patterns.
If you are ready to undertake your own individual relationship work, please send me a message for an initial consultation.
For those of you wanting help at the initial level of learning skills and tools for navigating your co-parenting situation, I suggest working with a co-parenting coach. One whose approach is aligned with the co-parenting framework I have found most helpful in working with many families over these past 10 years is Tamar Burris, www.tamarburris.com I encourage you to contact her to see if her offerings are a good fit for your current needs.
For those of you wanting a basic co-parenting course, I suggest you check out the online courses offered at https://www.onlineparentingprograms.com/texas-parenting-programs.html
For those of you interested in understanding the negative impact of parental conflict on children and what you can do to alleviate this source of toxic stress for your children, I suggest the well-researched and engaging online webinars offered at https://www.resetting-the-family.com